Monday, September 24, 2012

Tug-of-war. // Jen J.

Those of you that have been tracking me know that I like my cocktails.  And if you've been following me on Instagram (passingleft) you would also think I like my beer.  But the truth is, I hate beer.  I am just one of those people trying to fake it until I make it.

Because of my healthy life change, I've been having an internal tug-o-war with the libations.  Thanks to my weight loss, I want to go out more.  I am feeling more confident and the clothes I've purchased lately are awesome so I want to show them off.  But on the other hand, drinking is so counter-productive for me.  After sipping a little liquid gold, I lose my inhibitions and become a complete food slut and stuff my face.  This just happened a few days ago and I felt like ass the entire next day and immediately gained two pounds.  The only silver lining is the fact that I discovered a new drink - root beer and Three Olives Whipped vodka - for a little root beer float action!  You are welcome.

So when the BF suggested two beer centric activities the past two weekends, I thought, "this will be good".  I won't drink, but it's still an opportunity to go out.  One event was an Oktoberfest at a local brewery and the other a Zoo Brew.  I had fun at these events but despite feeling better about how I looked - I had also had a pang of lack confidence concerning our relationship.  My BF loves his beer so these two events were completely up his alley.  At the Oktoberfest, the beer was served in 63 ounce jugs so people were getting buzzed up fast - including the friends we went with.  Then there was me, just standing there socially awkward because things weren't as funny to me.  I then started calculating the calories in each of the jugs (which disgusted me) and thought about how all these people should not be driving home.  And then I started to think that my BF and his friends probably think I am lame and he is having more fun with these people than me.  Blah, blah, sober mind just wondering.  I know my BF loves me and appreciated the safe ride home, but, I just can't shake this feeling of lameness.

The BF & I at Zoo Brew.  Me trying to fake it until I make it.
Shark tank at the Zoo Brew.
Jugs 'o beer!  Oktoberfest.
Am I alone?  Anyone else out there wishing they could drink their faces off and not gain an ounce?  Or join their man in eating bucket of wings and not see an instant increase in their waistline?  Do you experience this tug-o-war with beverages/food or feel that your healthy lifestyle has hindered your relationship in someway?

~ Jen J. 


  1. I can relate on so many levels! My husband ears nothing but junk after dinner most nights. He can eat a whole thing of Oreos in two days flat. He only weighs 135lbs. I will never be that lucky and some days it pisses me off. I just have to stay focused on my goals and power through it! Good luck, I feel your pain!

  2. Um...ya 100%. I actually do love beer but my vice lately is wine. LOVE that it tastes amazing, relaxes me, makes me more social....and smarter, funnier and hotter too (well, at least in my head),

    We're social people and drinks are a part of almost everything we do. But yes, now that I've started to become more active I don't want to blow all the calories on drinks alone. I still do though.

    Right now trying to get knocked up so that's a whole different story. Forced sobriety will be okay...hoping I'll be gaining a different (baby) kinda weight soon!!


  3. I can't drink if I want to have a succesful weekend, plain and simple. I wish I could but I just can't. As soon as the alcohol starts flowing I want to add greasy carbs with it and then the next day I feel like a slug and eat even worse. I HATE beer. Les loves it and won't touch hard liquor. It works for us because that way we always have a driver. It has to be a moderation thing because I won't cut it forever but if its a week I want a loss I have to be the sober friend :) AND sweets your BF has your hotself on his arm I don't think he is worried about anyone else in the room.
    smooches xx

  4. I'm not a drinker never really have been but I love my food - some days I workout just so I can eat exactly what I want to.

  5. I totally know how you feel! My fiance loves his beer and I do like beer too, but I hate feeling like a run over waffle the next day. So I try to limit the beer drinking activites to once or twice a month. It is tough being the sober one out but it is so great being the headache free one the next day! I find that when I drink beer, I pig out that night when I get home and then I eat fried crap the entire next day because I don't feel well. Come Monday, I feel like a gorrilla that has just been shot in the arse! Not a good time!

  6. I definitly feel a tug of war with foods! I miss my wine and cocktails as well as ice cream sundaes and cake. But then when I eat that stuff I don't feel good at all, so it's really not worth it. The only thing worth it is the wine and cocktails in moderation right??? :)

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  8. All good things in moderation!.... I feel like I chant this is my head all day everyday.. Lol!!!

  9. I get it. I don't drink; I've never been much of a drinker. I really just don't like how it makes me feel. Sometimes, I wish I was a drinker, haha, because then I could stop drinking and lose this dang weight. Drunk people ALWAYS make me laugh; maybe you can start laughing at them instead of with them. ;) You could be the DD, it's a hard job but someone's gotta do it!

  10. I used to have the same insecurities about not being able to/wanting to drink like my ex and definitely felt like a lame girlfriend because of it. He was a very social guy and we had a huge social circle and I started drinking a lot more when we started dating causing me to gain weight so that was just another insult to injury! I am SOOOO not comparing my situation to yours, but being out of the relationship made me realize how much of an alcoholic he was and I am so much better off not being in a situation like that. I do not need to feel insecure with my partner because I couldn't and didn't want to keep up with his drinking.

  11. My hubby is a huge drinker and I used to be, but throughout this weight loss journey I have basically just cut it out, almost entirely. I feel you 100% about not being as much fun or just not "getting" the drunk people when I'm sober, but I just can't drink like I used to and expect to lose the weight and keep it off. I even had a glass of wine a few days ago and didn't like it! I was like WHAT?! I LOVE WINE! i guess it helps that I wake up at 4:30am to go to boot camp or run with a friend of mine (we have a 5k this weekend) and if I drink anything there is no way i will get out of bed. All I can say is it gets easier just not drink as the days go by. And I will still have a beer or glass of wine every now and then, but I don't drink nearly as much as I did a few months ago. And my hubby is pretty supportive, although he still drinks like a fish.

    Anyways, you can do it! p.s. love you and this fitcamp! you guys keep me going for real!


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