Friday, November 21, 2014

IVF & Me.

It has taken me exactly one year to get this point.  Tower and I just celebrated our one year anniversary, which means we've officially been trying to start a family for 12 months.  I'm 34 and he's 37 so given our age we decided to hit the ground running. 

The first couple of months of trying consisted of monitoring my cycle with the p tracker and clue iphone apps.  After that didn't work, I graduated to the ovulation predictor kits (OPKs).  According to the smiling pee sticks, I was ovulating and my cycle was on point.  Yet, still no success.  A few months later, I met with my gynecologist and she ordered the typical protocol for someone who is trying to conceive.  This included blood work to test my follicle stimulating hormone and progesterone level,  and a hysterolsalpingogram (a test to determine if both Fallopian tubes are wide open for business).  Tower was also summoned to get his swimmers tested.  Everything for both of us was normal.  I was then referred to a Fertility Center in Pittsburgh.  More testing ensued; more normal results.  The only exception was that from my hysterosalpingogram, my doctor could not say with 100% certainty that both of my tubes were open.  I found this super annoying because the doctor who conducted the test, said they both looked good.  GAH!!!!!!  

Another one of the factors my doctor looked at was my ovarian reserve which measures your antral follicle count.  My understanding of this is that it's a measure of the quantity and quality eggs you have left.  My count was 12 and they really want you to have at least 9.  I passed and am in a normal range for my age, but did not achieve rock star status. 

So based on a possible clogged tube and not achieving rock star status my doctor recommended IVF.   I'd rather be able to do this naturally but on the other hand I feel blessed that it's an option for us.  It is SO expensive but with the resources and insurance available to us, we are going to be able to finagle it.  I could wait and continue to try naturally, but I ain't getting any younger and I also have Ulcerative Colitis, an auto-immune disease.  While the auto-immune disease shouldn't impact my fertility - you just never know.  

I wish I would have started documenting this process earlier because there has been a lot of other steps to get us to this point.  But in summary, by now I should basically have a reserved parking spot at the hospital.  I highly recommend when selecting a fertility center you really consider the convenience of their location.  You will be there ALOT!  Especially, when you really get into a treatment cycle. 

I will try to go back in fill in some of the pre-treatment cycle blanks as I continue down this path.  I wanted to share this story because we are part of a generation in which women are waiting to start families and I want to share the possible side effects of postponing motherhood.   It is nothing to be ashamed of as so many amazing people of all ages struggle with infertility.  Additionally, when I looked for blogs on the subject - I didn't find any that were frank nor candid about the cost or injection process.  All of which has stunned me. 

At this point, we just wait for my cycle to begin so we can start.

- nineteen eighty

I've decided to use nineteen eighty, my birth year, as my pen name because during this whole process I have recited my birth date countless times.  Anytime I call anyone about anything related to this, I must state my first and last name and birth date before they will give me any information.


  1. Thank you for sharing this. I went through fertility treatments for a little over a year before I got pregnant with my son. Infertility isn't something that a lot of people talk about, so I am glad your talking about it. Prayers sent your way!

  2. I'm excited to follow along in your journey and wishing you good thoughts! :)

  3. I just clicked over and saw you blogging again, I wish you all the best in this journey

  4. Yay!!!!!! Your back to blogging..... Best of luck in your journey. Thank you for sharing, this will bring hope and motivation to the rest of us who also are trying to start a family. Been trying for 6 years.


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